How would you describe your Mother/Daughter relationship? Is it complicated? Loving? Fun? Fragile? There is not a right or wrong answer, but most brides know exactly how they feel about their moms (or step-moms or mom-figure or Mother-in-law). And, most brides also know that the only way to improve these relationships is if the other person changes.
Except - that’s not true.
The desire to control or change another person is a big red flag that we have work to do on ourselves. Fortunately, it’s actually easier to change ourselves than to change someone else.
A relationship is simply the thoughts and beliefs we have about another person. A relationship does not hinge on what the other person says or does. I know this might sound ridiculous and implausible. But, it’s true. Someone else’s actions cannot make you feel anything.
So, if you want to improve your relationship with your mom, step-mom or MIL, you actually need to look at yourself. What are your beliefs about this person? How are you showing up in the relationship compared to how you WANT to show up?
Once we look inward, we can start to see that we are responsible for how we feel in all relationships.
Ready to take it one step further? Book a free consultation and I’ll give you some practical tips to move your relationships to a more positive place.
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